Ben is Back... Maybe?
Everyone is really obsessed with Ben. I mean, I get a lot of questions about him... "Have you been back out with Ben?" "Has he called yet?" "What's up with Ben?" "He's definitely in to you." Well, that's not a question but people say it a lot. And, by "a lot," I mean a couple of times a week; every other week. ha.
I should probably note that the date I talked about in that post was in September. It is now June and we've been out once together since then. But there are some in-between interactions! So...
Total side note: It's kind of weird writing this because I think he reads my blog.
Back in February I went to the Alessia Cara concert with two of my girlfriends (great show but there were a lot of teenagers there so it was low-key uncomfortable). Anyway, guess who's also there? Ben! I saw he was with a girl so I thought it best to not make things awkward, as I am so wonderful at doing - it's an art really, and avoid him. Well, not actively avoid him - but I wasn't going to just walk up to them and be like "Oh, hey!"
Two hours later, end of the show - I think I'm in the clear standing outside with ladies I came with. And here comes Ben. Right up behind me. With his lady-friend. Now, there are a lot of reasons why I shouldn't assume they were on a date - but here's why I did: Remember before how I said we had been down this path before? And then he just disappeared? He got a girlfriend. We were still friends on social media - so obviously I know what she looks like. This was her. I'm friends with a lot of my exes still, but I'm not sure any of them would have gone to this concert with me as an ex. Again, I shouldn't assume - but I did.
He came up to us, introduced her (not as his girlfriend which could have been a clue but I'm not great at reading those). Then, he starts talking about my dog. Two things:
- He got her name wrong; he kept calling her Spotty. She has spots and he's called her that before but then also called her by her actual name. So I'm not sure if he doesn't know her name or is just being funny. I kind of think he forgot her name.
- He kept mentioning coming by the house and seeing the dog.
The first thing kind of annoyed me; the second thing was kind of weird. Because, this is either your girlfriend or your ex-girlfriend and you keep talking about coming to see my dog. We say our goodbyes and I decide to text him the next day.
I text him a picture of Dottie on Valentine's Day - nothing major; we chatted briefly. And that Bryson Tiller concert was the next day. He text me a few days after the concert asking about it. Again, briefly chatted. Our next few interactions were pretty superficial; upcoming concerts, vinyls and festival plans for the summer. He hit me up around my birthday and then again when I dyed my hair the first time. Then silence. Until May. Out of the blue asks me to a baseball game. A game happening the very next day.
I went. My hair got dumb frizzy because of the humidity. But, I went. He came by the house, we drank a few ciders & caught up. Then headed over.
We ran into a couple of his coworkers. But mostly, we just ate awful stadium food, drank & talked. I was waiting for him to bring up the blog post - but he didn't. And my friend Chelsea told me not to say anything about it - I listened, girl!
Anyway, I'm pretty sure we're just friends. Which is 100% absolutely fine. I was talking to a guy friend of mine about it and he said I haven't been matching Ben's effort with communicating first and I should do that. And I did on a couple occasions. And he totally responded. But, I still think it's a homie kind of thing. I don't really know, though, if I'm being completely honest with myself.
Also, Ben if you're reading this... Uh... Hey?